Sex Ed Class
No, it's not a typo. You've read that correctly. Welcome to Sex Ed Class. Honestly, it is a tad bit out of my comfort zone to have this discussion outside of a few people or let alone, outside of my house. However, I've made a commitment to be completely transparent. I am a bit of a risk-taker, but this is far more of a risk for me than I care to admit to. I will say, however, that by taking this risk, I've learned a few things along the way. So while some of you probably read this title and had your minds go straight to the gutter, I'm almost positive to bet that after reading and listening to this episode, you'll walk away just as I did.....Enlightened and dare I say more knowledgeable.
So let's have this conversation in the most adult way possible, only giving way to a few giggles, snickers, and probably a lot of bashful moments. We're going to be completely honest with each other and just put everything out there. I immediately thought about Salt-N-Pepa's song, "Let's Talk About Sex". Now you're probably wondering, "What does this have to do with Business & Entrepreneurship? To my surprise, and I'm sure to yours too when you finish this article, it has a lot to do with Business & Entrepreneurship.
So as a pre-teen of a single mother, my mother had my older cousin talk to my twin brother and me about sex. It's a bit amusing now that I think about it because he showed us some porn and said, "Look!" He went on to explain what we were looking at and what was going on and being done to the two consensual adults. He then went on to tell us, if I can quote one of my favorite movies "The Jerk", our "Special Purpose" will start doing things and we will start feeling things if it hasn't already. He was very good to tell us to use protection, always have our own protection because some women will put holes into the condoms and we won't know it, and that's how kids get born. Of course, after we had the talk with my older cousin, my mother proceeded to tell us that she's too young to be a grandmother, so don't bring home any babies. We didn't. I can't speak for my brother, but I know it made me curious to know more about it, except I was too scared to do anything because I didn't want any babies. On top of that, I didn't know how to ask a girl if she would like to partake in such activities. Do I just ask a girl if she wants to have sex? Do I make the first move or do I let her make the first move? Clearly, things got complicated at such a young age, I just said forget it and figured I'll circle around to it later.
My brother, on the other hand, was pretty smooth and was able to talk to girls. Needless to say, because we are identical twins, I had him go talk to the girls for me and pretend to be me. That worked until I started talking to them on the phone and I would screw everything up. True embarrassing story. I eventually started to get the hang of it with the tutelage of my brother, practice, and always solid advice from my older cousin. Now I've seen some hound dogs in my day, but I was never pressed liked that to have sex. Ultimately, I was into the mental connection than the physical connection. I enjoy great conversations that can lead to something physical than just getting straight to the physical. Don't get me wrong, getting straight to the physical has its times and places but the mental connection is also a form of foreplay that makes the physical so much better and sweeter.
I'm probably giving out way too much information here about myself, but as I mentioned before, I'm sticking to my goal this year of being completely transparent. I'm a little uneasy about saying all of this, but just like when you're thrown into a fit of passion, it may seem uneasy at first, but once you get things rolling, you'll find your rhythm and climax is sweeter. So, let's get to the climax part, shall we?
Let's be honest here, SEX FEELS GOOD. Both you and your partner are getting that rhythm down, your bodies are pressed together like the cookies on an ice cream sandwich. There are noises being made and you both are working your way up to that mountain peak. The location doesn't matter as long you both get to that finish line together. Oh yeah, now it's getting real 50 Shades of Grey up in here. You both are doing things that the other like, maybe its a little teasing or just a little bit of pain, but it's enough to heighten the senses and gives a little bit of a kick. Maybe it's just the touching of the silhouette of the body with the tips of your fingers or other parts of your extremities or objects you find lying around. The connection between the two of you is starting to get closer and closer as the passion gets deeper and deeper. And then you.....
So let's take a minute real quick before anyone gets TOO excited. I know, I hate to do that to you, but it gets better later. Trust me. So again, you're probably wondering, "What does this have to do with entrepreneurship??!!" I had those same thoughts as well. When I talked to this week's guest professor, that was the main question that I had presented. The answer I received....WAS EVERYTHING.
Of course, I was a bit puzzled and had even more questions I wanted to ask. Call it curiosity mixed with a tad bit of intrigue. The more and more questions that were answered, the more and more questions I had. Being completely in the moment, much like how I took you guys on that little sexual fantasy rollercoaster there, that's when I realized that there are so many things that can be uncovered from this conversation and that I HAVE TO RECORD THIS AS AN LESSON!!!! So that's exactly what I did. Let's welcome our guest professor who is going to take us all to our climax, guest professor (soon to be) Dr. Erika Miley.
Guest professor, Dr. Erika Miley is a Mental & Sexual Health Therapist, sex nerd, and shame buster. She has a podcast called Sex Talk with Erika Miley and runs a group practice called the Center for Mental & Sexual Health. I think once you check out this lesson that she does with us here at The School of Hard Knocks, you'll probably end up subscribing to her podcast as I did. She's an amazing person that pushed my boundaries about sex, in a good way. She also busted some myths that I had and some other well-known myths as well.
I can go on and on about her, but I don't want to make you climax too early. Trust me when I say that I've learned a lot from her and she answered my biggest question that began all of this, which is "WHAT DOES SEX HAVE TO DO WITH BUSINESS & ENTREPRENEURSHIP??" It has a lot to do with it. More than you think....But I'll let guest professor Dr. Erika Miley explain it to you.